KYLO 4 – Communication (Notes, 2/13/2022)

“For the mouth speaks from that which fills the heart…”

Matthew 12:34 (NASB)

If your heart is governed by fear then much of what you communicate is actually designed to hide what is really going on inside.

Fear of truth is the great hijacker of communication.

Three types of communication:
PASSIVE
Core Belief: You matter – I don’t

AGGRESSIVE
Core belief: I matter, you don’t.

PASSIVE/AGGRESSIVE
Core value: You matter…no, not really.

ASSERTIVE
Core belief: You matter…so do I.

To a passive person – “What are you going to do about that?”

To an aggressive person – “I can only talk with you when you decide to be respectful.”

To a passive/aggressive person – Consistent boundaries/stay respectful/pursue the goal of the conversation.

The first goal of conversation is understanding – not agreement.

Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings & needs

Respect their value.

Do the same for others.